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10 Ways To Improve Your Online Dating Skills

Dating can be tough, especially when you’re surrounded by thousands of other people all searching for the perfect match. With so many profiles and dating sites across the web, you’ve got to stand out to be successful. That’s why we’ve compiled 10 top tips for making the most of your profile and finding the right person and dating safely. From which clichés to avoid, to picking the right selfie – we’ve got it covered.

1. Short and sweet

It’s not an autobiography – so don’t turn it into one.
Women especially have a tendency to overwrite when it comes to profiles – but for many people, endless blocks of text can be a big turn off. Sum yourself up briefly, and if your potential match wants to know more, they can ask you personally.

After all, leaving some questions unanswered is a great way to open up a conversation.

2. Avoid clichés

It’s all very well telling everyone you’re looking for a man that can make you laugh, a girl with a nice smile or that your ideal date is a walk along the beach. But if you want to stand out and bag a date, you’re going to have to be a little more creative.

Turn words into pictures and replace those clichés with something that makes you, you – what are your ambitions, what countries do you most want to visit, and why?

3. Update your profile regularly

Thousands of people are joining online dating sites every week, so keep your profile fresh and renew your page every so often. Likewise, a new picture every few weeks can make all the difference.

4. Put some clothes on

Ladies, you want a serious relationship that could eventually lead to marriage, Avoid posting photos of yourself half naked. You will probably attract men in droves. Their main interest: to enjoy those goodies on display.Chances that any of them wants to walk you to alter or as the mother of his children are very slim.

Gentlemen, your chances with ladies with that picture of your shirtless hairy potbelly are not good.

5. Say cheese

Your profile picture speaks a thousand words, so avoid grumpy pouts, or group holiday snaps. It’s a good idea to match your photo to your interests – are you a traveller? Do you enjoy yoga? What’s your favourite sport? Another handy tip is to look at the camera – don’t hide behind sunglasses, eye contact is engaging and attractive, as is a big smile to draw people in.

6. Turn negatives into positives

Stay upbeat, even when discussing the not-so-positive aspects of life. A negative tone is an instant turn off. Think of your profile as a dating CV – you wouldn’t want your employer to read anything negative right? Well, the same goes for a potential partner. Focus on the things you’re passionate about.If you’ve got children, for example, make a point of the fact that you’re a family person and looking for someone with the same values.

7. Mention your hobbies

Bringing up your hobbies can help you connect with suitable matches in an instant. It can also help you find things in common and spark conversation. Focus on what makes you social – outdoor sports, teaching and group activities are a good start.

8. Check your spelling

You’d be surprised how many people find poor grammar and spelling a turn off, and the best of us can make mistakes, so be careful and make sure you proofread your page before pressing ‘submit’. One quick way to do this is to write your profile in a Word doc and use spell check to make sure no silly errors slip through. When you’re done, you can just copy and paste your perfectly proofed profile.

9.Don’t move too fast.

Act with discretion, restraint and a sense of mystique. Being overly available and desperate drives people away faster than you may think. This includes jumping into bed right away , leaving 20 phone messages or stalking someone on Face book. Take your time to find out about the new person before deciding on whether or not to take it further.

10. Stay safe.

And last but most important,in addition to point 9 above, STAY SAFE. Be cautious,Tread carefully.There are alot of genuine nice people online,who are genuinely looking for love, but on the other hand there are lot of mean and malicious people lurking online waiting for their next victim to con, rape, or even kill. (yes we know this sounds scary, but this is the bitter truth so we are not taking any shortcuts in telling you the truth).  You are better off safe than sorry.  The list below is not exhaustive, but has some helpful tips for dating safely online)

i) Do not give too much private information about yourself (Your physical address, where you work)

ii)When you are ready to meet this person meet them at a public place. Not at their home or at your home. And tell atleast one friend about your meeting , where you are meeting, the name of this person and some contact information of this person.This sounds scary but you need to give the police something to start with should you actually go missing as a result of an online date.

iii) Do not send your nude pictures online.You don’t know what the other person will do with them. And you dont’t want make yourself susceptible to blackmail.

iv) Do not send money to someone you’ve never met. Also be wary of anyone you meet online who claims to be well off but after afew dates,needs you to urgently bail them out of some emergency situation with some cash.

v)Before you meet someone. Try to do a bit of research on the them! Yes… we are telling you to google them. There is alot of information online.Don’t stalk them, Just try to find out as much as possible about them before you meet them.


Partly from the Mirror

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